FR#54: BDays, Sexy Cousins

2010-02-21 Sunday

Hipster Lounge

Rufio, Dark Nes

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I am working on rapport building.

Tutored Japanese today. I successfully kept the conversation going for an hour.

Went to Rufio's aunt's place to celebrate Rufio's Birthday. I found it really difficult to build rapport with his family and friends, but I did it to a degree.

Later, we went out to the Hipster Lounge - Rufio, two female cousins, and I. As we walked in, the bouncer turned away some guys and some hot girls. "Sorry, private party." I guess it was a private party for regulars like us.

Dark was there already with two guys I had met before briefly on the street. (See: #45: The Effects of Alcohol and My Second 10 Second Kiss.) They are with a bunch of girls, so I merge our set with theirs.

I dance, do some sets, talk with the girls in the first set. I build rapport with one of the girls, she seeks rapport, we dance, then every so often her friends drag her outside for a smoke. It might have gone really well had her friends not kept doing this. This lounge was way too loud to entertain everyone though and the girls were spread out on top of it.

Lesson - Think even more dirty thoughts about her. Kino a lot more.

I get blown out more. I'm yelling over the music and am incredibly high-energy, which I think makes me come off drunk.

Later, I want to leave, but one of Rufio's cousins - I unsuccessfully hit on her in maybe my first month of pick up, but now we're friends - insisted that I stay. She wanted to find her cousin, so I led her through the crowd. She had her hands on my shoulder as I danced through the crowd. I then took her hands in mine. We started grinding, then I went for the jugular. She pulled back, but kept dancing. Later, as we danced cheek to cheek, I move to her lips. She resisted, but we kept grinding until really...we needed to find her cousin.

Lesson - push/pull, then go for the neck harder. Start with other touching as well.

Positives: I practiced a lot of Juggler-style rapport building. I'm beginning to wonder if one equation for attraction is:

Attraction = Comfort + Investment + Sexual Tension/Body Language/Tonality/Touching

I still have not begun working on climbing investment ladders, but I feel my rapport is improving a little. I also got a lead on a job from a guy who I build crazy rapport with. Last, but not least, I had an awesome time with Rufio's family and friends, had an awesome time dancing, and for the first time felt pretty comfortable in that lounge.