FR#63: My First Time

FR#63: My First Time

2010-03-25 Friday

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Mouse and I had seen each other a couple times for dinner over the week. The whole week, I had been telling her about someone named Prince Teddy that I wanted her to meet. The previous week, I had stopped in a convenience store to find an affectionate, black kitten named Prince Teddy. I kept taking Mouse, but each time Prince Teddy would be sleeping in the back. What cracked me up about it was that I never told Mouse that Prince Teddy was a cat. She had assumed he was a really interesting homeless person.

On Friday, I took Mouse to this convenience store again and finally, Prince Teddy was awake. It turned out that Mouse is allergic to animals though, so...that sucked. It was raining really heavily, so with my arm around her, we walked back to my place. In retrospect, I did not tell her where we were going or ask her if she wanted to come to my place. I guess I just assumed it'd be okay with her, which I'd say is a good way to do it.

When we got back to my place, as before, we ended up on my bed. This time, I assumed we would not have sex, so I was surprised when she asked, "Do you have a condom?"

Some guys say that the first time really sucks. I agree in a sense - the sex did not feel so special in terms of physical stimulation, and even though we had sex for hours, I never got off. Emotionally, though, it completely blew me away. It is hard to explain, but I am sure some of you guys have felt it. Being intimate with a girl I was so fond of felt incredible.

After having sex the next few times, I became frustrated. Sex still wasn't feeling so good. I mentioned it to Mouse and after that, the sex somehow became a lot better. So for you guys who haven't had sex or are a little frustrated with your first time, here's my advice: Build a strong emotional connection with a girl. Sleep with her only when you decide for yourself that you could be happy in a relationship with her. It does not matter if the relationship is open or exclusive. What matters is that the girl means a lot to you.

Number two, if you resist going all the way with any girl who is willing to sleep at your place, you'll train yourself have a non-needy mindset.

Number three, I've heard it from other PUA friends that they wish that had slept with someone more meaningful to them for their first time. And when I look back on things, I think of that 39 year old woman I met a while back at the Thompson Hotel. Just maybe, I might have been able to pull her into the bathroom for my first time. I am glad things did not go that way. I really believe it would not have been as good as having my first time with a girl who meant as much to me as Mouse did.

Later that night, she told me she came down with an allergic reaction. So much for Price Teddy...