FR#24: My First Kiss as a PUA

Date: 2009-11-06 Friday

Place--House Party, Anchor, Cheap Dive Bar, Duane Reade, Subway

Time--05:00

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I have found my new apartment and all that remains is to sign the lease. Friday night, I am invited by a Chinese friend to the apartment of one of her language partners (语伴 she calls them, though as her language partners, he sometimes feel more like her 语婊 - language bitches!).

Tempus, a PUA I met on the mPUAForum chat room, wants to go sarging Friday as well, so I invite him to come hang with my Chinese and Sinophile friends - Party Crashing 101.

I have not seen any of these guys forever and, eager to try out my fledgling PUA skills, I sarge everyone in the room. I am glad to see that Tempus can hold his own, so I game some of the Chinese girls I hadn't met before. One girl warms up to me particularly well, and I number close her. One other Chinese girl number closes me, but as soon as I give her my number, she flings her hair around and walks away. Was she looking for validation?

Tempus and I then head out to meet with his friends/family at a club called Anchor. We do a couple sets there - in one set, I hook then eject when I run out of dialog. Sorry Gunwitch.

After perhaps twenty minutes in Anchor, we leave for a bar called Cheap Dive Bar. Tempus and I both have to use the restroom, so we immediately head to the back of the bar. Sitting outside the bathrooms is a two set of pudgies. These pudgies are very fiesty though and I joke with them a bit before going to the bathroom.

When I come out, Tempus is hooked in the set and there's another pudgie who joined. This girl wears a tube top with massive cleavage which she uses as a cell phone and camera holster! I Facebook her because she's awesome and I roleplay the whole set so that the closest pudge is my niece. She is Polish and I am not terribly attracted, but I don't know how to eject gracefully with Tempus still there. Oh well, let's just have fun with this, I tell myself.

After fifteen minutes, though, I start dropping innuendo with the Polish girl and begin kinoing - Am I becoming attracted to her? Yeah, I am. I escalate so naturally and in retrospect, I am a bit surprised. I feel so comfortable; I am not intimidated. It's not, What do I do? It is, What do I want? The answer is: Her.

RSD's Tim talks about this principle in his Flawless Natural - not "What do I do?" but "What do I want?" - though at this point, I had not seen his videos. This principle arises naturally once one becomes comfortable - and as Tim puts it, the Pick Up ceases to feel so mechanical.

Eventually, we start making out. I try to go home with the girl, but I have no apartment and I just do not want to go back with her to Brooklyn.

After an hour, Tempus leaves and I leave soon after. I'm in this awesome state, not buzzing or anything, but just comfortable with myself. Never have I felt like that, nor have I felt like that again since that night.

On the way to the subway, I stop at Duane Reade and hit on the cashier. We flirt for about 15 minutes and I number close.

On the subway, I get more numbers, then arrive home. Awesome night.